Points on etiquettes with a dying person

Etiquettes with a Dying Person and after Death[1]

By Dr. Saleh as Saleh

Audios part 1 (11:14) part 2 (28:45)

1.       Moisten the lips to ease the saying of Laa ilaaha illa Allaah.

2.       Remind him to say Laa ilaaha illa Allaah.

3.       Close his eyes

4.       Only say good things around him as the angels say aameen

5.       Make du’aa for him like the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told Umm Salamah for Abee Salamah

اللهم اغْفِر لي ولَهُ، واعْقِبْني مِنْهُ عُقْبَة حَسَنَة

Allahummaghfir li wa lahu, wa a’aqibni minhu `uqba hasanah

[O Allah, forgive me and him, and bestow upon me a better future (give me a better substitute)

6.       Close his jaws while his body is still warm so mouth is not left open for ghusl water or insects.

7.       Whilst body is still warm make the joints flexible to facilitate ghusl and shrouding before it stiffens. Bend the fingers, arms, legs and straighten them.

8.       Remove clothes gently.

9.       Cover the whole body with a cloth.

10.   (Some say place a heavy object on the stomach to prevent bloating but it is not authentic or recommended to do).

11.   Hasten to prepare the deceased as long as death is confirmed. (Abasa 80:21)

12.   Hasten in carrying the janazah.

13.   Signs of Death:

a.       Medical signs:

                                                                i.      Breathing and heart stop

                                                               ii.      Brain dead (if the brain cells have died it is permissible to stop life support machine)

b.      Signs that People of knowledge have specified:

                                                                i.      Sinking of the temple between the eye and ear.

                                                               ii.      Sideward inclination of the nose

                                                             iii.      The hand seems separated from the arm as if hanging by the skin

                                                             iv.      The feet seem separated from the ankle as if loose

                                                              v.      The skin of the face is loose

                                                             vi.      The jaws separate

                                                           vii.      Contraction of the testicles

                                                          viii.      Disappearance of the blackness of the eyes (strongest sign of death)

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[1] Points taken by Umm ‘AbdirRahmaan  1440/2019   www.salafitranslatedbenefits.blogspot.com

What to say when a person is on their death bed

What to say when a person is on their death bed[1]

Ahaadeeth taken from Fiqh al Ad’iyyah wal Adhkaar by Shaykh ‘AbdurRazzaaq ‘Abdul Muhsin al Badr. P229

1.

It was narrated from Anas that the Prophet (ﷺ) entered upon a young man who was dying and said:

“How do you feel?” He said: “I have hope in Allah, O Messenger of Allah, but I fear my sins.” The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “These two things (hope and fear) do not coexist in the heart of a person in a situation like this, but Allah will give him that which he hopes for and keep him safe from that which he fears.”

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ الْحَكَمِ بْنِ أَبِي زِيَادٍ، حَدَّثَنَا سَيَّارٌ، حَدَّثَنَا جَعْفَرٌ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ، ‏:‏ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ دَخَلَ عَلَى شَابٍّ وَهُوَ فِي الْمَوْتِ فَقَالَ ‏:‏ ‏"‏ كَيْفَ تَجِدُكَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏:‏ أَرْجُو اللَّهَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَأَخَافُ ذُنُوبِي ‏.‏ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏:‏ ‏"‏ لاَ يَجْتَمِعَانِ فِي قَلْبِ عَبْدٍ فِي مِثْلِ هَذَا الْمَوْطِنِ إِلاَّ أَعْطَاهُ اللَّهُ مَا يَرْجُو وَآمَنَهُ مِمَّا يَخَافُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

Ibn Maajah vol 5. Book 37 Hadeeth 4261

2.

Jabir bin 'Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying three days before his death: "Let none of you die unless he has good expectations of Allah".

[Muslim].

وعن جابر بن عبد الله، رضي الله عنهما ، أنه سمع النبي، صلى الله عليه وسلم، قبل موته بثلاثة أيام يقول ‏:‏ لا يموتن أحدكم إلا وهو يحسن الظن بالله عز وجل‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏رواه مسلم‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

Arabic/English book reference

: Book 1, Hadith 441

3.

Mu`adh bin Jabal (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "He whose last words are: `La ilaaha illallaah' (There is none worthy of worship except Allah) will enter Jannah.''

[Abu Dawud].

عن معاذ رضي الله عنه قال‏:‏ قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏ ‏ "‏من كان آخر كلامه لا إله إلا الله دخل الجنة‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏رواه أبو داود والحاكم وقال‏:‏ صحيح الإسناد‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

Sunnah.com reference

: Book 7, Hadith 24

4.

'Ali reported that the last words of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, were:

"The prayer! The prayer! Fear Allah concerning your slaves!"

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلاَمٍ، قَالَ‏:‏ أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ فُضَيْلٍ، عَنْ مُغِيرَةَ، عَنْ أُمِّ مُوسَى، عَنْ عَلِيٍّ صَلَوَاتُ اللهِ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ‏:‏ كَانَ آخِرُ كَلاَمِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ الصَّلاَةَ، الصَّلاَةَ، اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ فِيمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ‏.‏

Grade	: Sahih (Al-Albani)	صـحـيـح   (الألباني)	حكم     :
Reference	: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 158

5.

Abu Sa’id and Abu Hurairah (RAA) narrated that the messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

“Remind those who are on their death bed of the Shahadah “Laa iIlaaha illallaah.” (for them to say it, hoping it will be their last words)”

وَعَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ وَأَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَا: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ لَقِّنُوا مَوْتَاكُمْ ¹‏ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اَللَّهُ } رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ, وَالْأَرْبَعَةُ ²‏ .‏

^‏1 ‏- أي: اذكروا وقولوا لمن حضره الموت؛ ليكون آخر كلامه: لا إله إلا الله.‏
^‏2 ‏- صحيح.‏ أما حديث أبي سعيد: فرواه مسلم (916)‏، وأبو داود (3117)‏، والنسائي (4/5)‏، والترمذي (976)‏، وابن ماجه (1445)‏.‏ وقال الترمذي: "حسن غريب صحيح".‏ وأما حديث أبي هريرة: فرواه مسلم (917)‏، وابن ماجه (1444)‏، وزاد البزار بسند صحيح على شرط مسلم: "فإنه من كان آخر كلمته: لا إله إلا الله.‏ عند الموت، دخل الجنة يوما من الدهر، وإن أصابه قبل ذلك ما أصابه".‏

Reference

: Bulugh al-Maram 535, 536

6.

Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her):

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "When you visit a sick or a dying person, you should utter good words because the angels say `Amin' at what you say.''

She added: When Abu Salamah (May Allah be pleased with him) died, I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, Abu Salamah has died." He (ﷺ) directed me to supplicate thus:

"Allahummaghfir li wa lahu, wa a`qibni minhu `uqba hasanatan

[O Allah, forgive me and him, and bestow upon me a better future (give me a better substitute)]." So I supplicated as he directed, and Allah gave me a man who was better for me than Abu Salamah (i.e., the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ)). (The Prophet (ﷺ) married Umm Salamah afterwards.) [Muslim].

-عن أم سلمة رضي الله عنها قالت‏:‏ قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏ ‏"‏إذا حضرتم المريض، أو الميت، فقولوا خيرا، فإن الملائكة يؤمنون علي ما تقولون، قالت‏:‏ فلما مات أبو سلمة، أتيت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلمى الله عليه وسلم الله عليه وسلم الله عليه وسلم فقلت‏:‏ يا رسول الله، إن أبا سلمة قد مات، قال‏:‏ “قولي‏:‏ اللهم اغفر لي وله، واعقبني منه عقبة حسنة‏"‏ فقلت‏:‏ فأعقبني الله من هو خير لي منه‏:‏ محمداً صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏.‏‏"‏

Sunnah.com reference

: Book 7, Hadith 27

7.

Taken from Majmoo Rasaa’il Ibn Rajab رحمه الله  (volume 3 p118) Maktabah Shamela.

Nakha’ee رحمه الله said that they used to recommend mentioning the good deeds of the servant when he was dying in order for him to have good thoughts about His Lord.

Abu ‘AbdirRahmaan as Sulamee رحمه الله during his illness said, ‘How can I not have hope in my Lord when I have fasted 80 Ramadhaan for Him.

When the people cried over Aboo Bakr bin ‘iyyaash when he was dying he said, ‘Do not cry! I have completed the recitation of the Qur’aan in this corner 13,000 times.

وقال النخعي: كانوا يستحبون أن يلقنوا العبد محاسن عمله عند موته لكي يحسن ظنه بربه.
قال أبو عبد الرحمن السُّلمى في مرضه: كيف لا أرجو ربي وقد صمت له ثمانين رمضان؟!.
ولما احتُضِر أبو بكر بن عياش وبكوا عليه قال: لا تبكوا، فإني ختمت القرآن في هذه الزاوية ثلاث عشرة ألف ختمة.

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[1] Selected by Umm ‘AbdirRahmaan 1440/2019    www.dhikrcharts.blogspot.com